How to Manage Anger

“a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.”

For most people the definition of anger seems obvious, after all, we’ve all experienced anger of varying degrees. Despite what many think, anger is normal and can be a very healthy emotion if regulated in an appropriate manner. Oftentimes the pressure to get rid of the feeling of anger or to strive to eliminate anger all together can be unhealthy as it assigns a negative connotation to the perfectly normal human emotion. That said, there is a time when anger can go from a natural human emotion to a hindrance to relationships, jobs and life. This kind of excess anger can be categorized in a few different ways.

Outward Anger

This is what most people think of when they hear the words anger management. Outward anger can involve actions like yelling, throwing things, breaking things and cursing. Those who suffer with excessive outward anger are usually seen as aggressive or instigators.

Inward Anger

Excessive inward anger is self-directed anger. Those who suffer from it often suffer from negative self-talk, excessive self-blame or depriving oneself of things they love as they deem themselves to be undeserving.

Passive Anger

Passive anger is described as anger which shows itself in covert ways. Think sarcasm, cutting remarks or the silent treatment.

How to Identify Anger?

Anger can be felt in a variety of ways, including physically and psychologically. Some hallmark signs of anger include: muscle tension, high blood pressure or heart rate, sense of tingling or fluttering, irritability, anxiety, rage and guilt, to name a few.

If you believe your anger is controlling you or that your anger is excessive, it may be time to consider some anger management techniques to help you regulate and regain a feeling of freedom from ‘negative’ expressions of emotions.

What is Anger Management?

Anger management is an umbrella term used to describe a variety of techniques and practises aimed to manage anger. These techniques can range from talk therapy to immersive programs to support groups and self-directed exercises.

Anger management works by identifying your unique triggers and implementing techniques such as meditation, breath work, impulse control…etc to work through complex emotions in a positive way.

It’s important to note that anger management therapy or programs can be mandated for some, but also completely elective for others.

Depending on your unique situation, there are a number of ways to manage anger in your life, including via workshops, programs or individual therapy sessions. At the Reflection Centre, we offer a variety of these options, led by specialized health care professionals.

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